fbpx

Practicing Self- Care

Hello beautiful friends,

I have a few self care tips for you today. although I have done a great deal of work on myself I still have moments when my inner critic rears her ugly head ! LOL I have put in place things to help me on my journey,so I wanted to share some tips with you:

  1. Be willing to try a few methods– You are going to try a few things before you find out what works for you, your life and schedule – just like an exercise workout. We don’t know what we like until we try it first right? The key is just starting talking positive to yourself.
  2. Check out your circle– Give yourself a check, are you even surrounding yourself with people that are positive and are going to help build you up?
  3. Reminders in your phone– Set up kind loving reminders in your phone. Make your screen saver say Hello Gorgeous !
  4. Stand in front of the mirror: Start your morning off or end your day with standing in front of the mirror saying 3 kinds things about ourselves even on the sad, hard, rough days (its worth it, I promise)
  5. Write sticky notes: Put them in your lunch box, purse, car or on your mirror saying whatever works for you. Yes write your self love notes where ever works for you
  6. Be Generous and Spread it to others that need to hear it– Remember to share kind affirmations and words with others. Maybe that is verbally or written or voice message- no form is wrong and all are helpful.
  7. When you forget just start again– Somedays you will fall into old habits and other days you will just forget, when that happens dust off the mess and get right back to your routine of positive thoughts.
  8. Become your best friend: Never give up on yourself, ever and always give yourself self-love. This is always important for growth and

Fire your Inner Critic.

Negative self-talk… We all do it… we wouldn’t be human if we didn’t. You know the things you say to yourself when you make a mistake or worse yet the things you say when you believe you ARE the mistake? These negative words that come from inside our own mind have the power to make us doubt our worthiness, our beauty, and our brilliance. My own inner critic as I like to call it used to undermine my life in really devastating ways. I gave it the power to stop me from realizing my dreams , from authentically connecting with others and from realizing financial freedom. You see I believed what it said 100% of the time…. until I realized where the negative thoughts came from.

Negative self-talk has been programmed into our mind from many different sources. They are impressions that we accepted as true, that we gathered from our parents, our friends, ourselves, teachers etc. .These impressions occurred when we were very young. Yep, that’s right they are all from the dusty past.

There is a way to quiet your self-critic and remove the believability from the negative self-talk you have used to torture yourself. It’s actually simple. You need to be willing to examine these beliefs closely and objectively with your now adult mind . I mean after all if they are going to have the power to undermine your self-worth they are worth a good look right ? My suggestion is that you write down on a piece of paper a couple of them that bother you the most. Then write the #’ numbers 1, 2 and 3 underneath each thought. That is where you are going to write down three factual evidence based statements that prove your negative self talk is true. Not a feeling, not your opinion or someone else’s but true evidence . Evidence is defined as the available body of facts or information that proves a belief is valid.

The good news is that there is NO evidence. our negative self talk is simply not true. I have looked at mine and have walked 100’s of people through this exercise. No one has ever come up with actual evidence. It’s time to stop letting these negative , critical messages rule our actions. The last action in this process is to re-write your negative self talk in opposite and place the new positive messages on your mirror where you can see them daily. Repeat them to yourself frequently! Life is simply to short to spend time criticizing ourself unnecessarily . We are 100% capable of finding new ways to practice self-love and silencing your inner critic is a good place to start.

Heart Hugs!

Sharon

“to thine own self be true”

Take Time for Stillness.

You are in a world of constant stimulation and busyness, and it can be hard to quiet the turbulence of your thoughts in order to see the clear picture. Cultivating stillness and silence is a powerful way to restore your balance and energy. Figure out what stillness means for you. It could be taking a walk along the beach, gardening, journaling, exercising, or meditating, Whatever practice you prefer, it’s important to access stillness every day, even if just for a few minutes. Tapping into stillness creates inner clarity and expanded awareness that will help you discover yourself with greater ease and understanding.